Archive for the ‘Family Law’ Category

Co-parenting thought on the words we speak

Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

My current posts and newsletters deal with co-parenting, and I want to share this timeless and often repeated advice:

“When you tell a child that you hate their other parent, you are telling them that you hate half of who they are…”

Let’s remember the power of words. Words have the power to build up or the power to tear down. Which will yours be today?

What is co-parenting?

Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

After the child’s parents choose to split it is important that the child be loved and supported by both parents and that the parents can productively parent the child even after a divorce. A former client came to me recently to ask about the co-parenting concept.

Q.  My ex and I almost always end up fighting whenever we talk about even the simplest matters about the kids? How can I communicate, much less co-parent, in this scenario?

Co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents–but it’s rarely easy. Putting aside relationship issues to co-parent agreeably can be fraught with stress. It is not always easy, but the benefit to your children over the years ahead will be great.

When faced with a tense situation like you described here, you should remain calm, stay consistent, and avoid or resolve conflict with your ex to make joint custody work.

The key to co-parenting is to focus on your children—and your children only. Yes, this can be very difficult. It means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. Admittedly, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most vital. Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.

It’s okay to be hurt and angry, but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Instead, let what’s best for your kids—you working cooperatively with the other parent—motivate your actions.

Are there tips to doing this effectively? You bet! Next week’s newsletter will feature some of the most effective co-parenting tips.

If you have some good co-parenting tips and advice you think I should share next week, please email me at eric@ericgruetzner.com.

If you would like to resolve your matters, or just get your legal questions answered, please feel free to reply to this email or please call me at (713) 370-7100.

Have a great day!
Eric

 

Keeping the cost of your divorce/child support case under control

Wednesday, May 29th, 2013

The cases and cost of attorney’s fees in a family law matter are much like cars…they come in many makes, styles, and price ranges. And just like shopping for a car, you should have an idea of what you are looking for and what is in your budget BEFORE you begin.

I know, I can hear you saying now how you don’t know what you are looking to get out of this case yet, because you don’t know all of your options. I get that completely. So make sure that when you meet with me, or any attorney, you are up front about your goals and your limitations going into the suit.

This information will help me better craft your strategy AND save you some money in the long run.

Feel free to call me at (713) 370-7100 to set a time for us to sit down together and plan the steps to resolving your situation. You may also visit my website at www.ericgruetzner.com. Eric

Can I get a private divorce?

Wednesday, May 8th, 2013

I was recently asked whether a client’s divorce could be private. That’s a very insightful question, because many of us have no desire to have our family’s dirty laundry aired in public. In this particular client’s case, I recommended that we use collaborative law so that the parties are in control of the process, rather than the courts.

It is often a smooth fit for a divorcing couple who value their time, their money, and their image. If you are looking to make your divorce a private and mature matter, please call or email and we can visit about your situation. Eric Gruetzner

Eric Gruetzner

Attorney at Law

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A look at celebrity child support payments

Friday, May 11th, 2012

And you thought your child support amount wasn’t computed correctly? Well, the Wall Street Journal this week look at some recent celebrity child support agreements, and what was being paid for, and it’s not your “average” child support….

http://online.wsj.com/article/APe55a2d5377894c75967b8e3121631c5c.html

Hiding Millions From Your Ex Gets Harder, Thanks To Offshore Tax Crackdown

Monday, April 2nd, 2012

Forbes Magazine ran a March 16, 2012 story chronicling one Alaska doctor’s attempts to hide $4.7 million from his ex-wife…the long arm of the long found him.

http://www.forbes.com/sites/janetnovack/2012/03/16/hiding-millions-from-your-ex-gets-harder-thanks-to-offshore-tax-crackdown/

CIA divorces: The secrecy when spies split

Wednesday, March 21st, 2012

The Fredericksburg woman divorcing her husband laid out all the messy details, including the most secret of them all. Her husband, she wrote in now-sealed court documents, is a covert operations officer for the Central Intelligence Agency. His CIA job, she said, poisoned their five-year-old marriage.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/cia-divorces-the-secrecy-when-spies-split/2012/03/05/gIQAPpBZAS_story.html

Poor who owe child support could lose federal benefits

Monday, February 27th, 2012

The Washington Post reported today that thousands of poor and disabled men stand to lose their only income next year because of a change in government policy that will allow states to seize every dollar of federal benefits from people who owe back child support.

It’s worth reading because many have lost sight of how much of the “delinquent” child support is often government fees and interest that comprise the delinquency.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/poor-who-own-child-support-could-lose-federal-benefits/2012/02/26/gIQA4zilcR_story.html

Eric

SB 820 passed and is effective 9/1/2011

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

Recently I blogged that SB 820 was in the works, and it has now passed.

Let’s all hope that once it is in practice that it will provide a good groundwork for possession and access schedules for children under three years of age.

Here’s the link and history on the bill as passed: http://www.legis.state.tx.us/billlookup/History.aspx?LegSess=82R&Bill=SB820&Sort=A

Eric Gruetzner

eric@ericgruetzner.com

Texas child possession & access orders for children under 3 years of age…change may be coming!

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

The Texas Legislature is in session, and Senate Bill 820 may result in more guidance to judges and attorneys in crafting possession and access schedules.  Essentially, it appears that the bill will amend the Texas Family Code by spelling out the relevant factors that a court must consider when making a possession order for children under three.  Let’s keep watch on this one, because if it passes then there may be both more guidance on the issue, as well as more uniformity across the state

I encourage you to read the bill here (http://www.capitol.state.tx.us/tlodocs/82R/billtext/pdf/SB00820F.pdf#navpanes=0)

Eric