What is co-parenting?

After the child’s parents choose to split it is important that the child be loved and supported by both parents and that the parents can productively parent the child even after a divorce. A former client came to me recently to ask about the co-parenting concept.

Q.  My ex and I almost always end up fighting whenever we talk about even the simplest matters about the kids? How can I communicate, much less co-parent, in this scenario?

Co-parenting amicably with your ex can give your children stability and close relationships with both parents–but it’s rarely easy. Putting aside relationship issues to co-parent agreeably can be fraught with stress. It is not always easy, but the benefit to your children over the years ahead will be great.

When faced with a tense situation like you described here, you should remain calm, stay consistent, and avoid or resolve conflict with your ex to make joint custody work.

The key to co-parenting is to focus on your children—and your children only. Yes, this can be very difficult. It means that your own emotions—any anger, resentment, or hurt—must take a back seat to the needs of your children. Admittedly, setting aside such strong feelings may be the hardest part of learning to work cooperatively with your ex, but it’s also perhaps the most vital. Co-parenting is not about your feelings, or those of your ex-spouse, but rather about your child’s happiness, stability, and future well-being.

It’s okay to be hurt and angry, but your feelings don’t have to dictate your behavior. Instead, let what’s best for your kids—you working cooperatively with the other parent—motivate your actions.

Are there tips to doing this effectively? You bet! Next week’s newsletter will feature some of the most effective co-parenting tips.

If you have some good co-parenting tips and advice you think I should share next week, please email me at eric@ericgruetzner.com.

If you would like to resolve your matters, or just get your legal questions answered, please feel free to reply to this email or please call me at (713) 370-7100.

Have a great day!
Eric

 

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